Your Maid Of Honor

Your maid of honor is your right hand gal. She should be someone who knows you well and will not be offended if you get angry or throw a fit if something does not go right during the wedding planning period.

Ideally, she should be detail-oriented and full of energy. She needs to have a "can do" attitude. She should love you enough to use almost all of her spare time helping you fulfill your wedding dreams.

Pictured below is my maid of honor, my sister, Norma Yorgensen, on my wedding day. Wasn't she pretty?

She is normally a sister, cousin, or a close friend of the bride. If she is married, she is called a matron of honor. Most brides have one or the other. Some brides have both. This is especially helpful if the two get along and work well together because the bride will have double the help!

The maid of honor helps the bride and her mother by making sure the caterer, florist, bakery, church, officiant, reception venue, furniture rentals, dressmakers, and on and on and on get everything done and delivered on time. She helps address envelopes for the wedding invitations. She helps the bride shop for everything the bride needs.

If she is crafty, she can help you make favors, decorations, centerpieces...to help you save a lot of money and add that personal touch to your wedding.

She listens to the bride when something goes wrong without getting angry or upset. She provides comfort and assurances that everything is going to be okay.

She also usually throws a bridal shower and a bachelorette party with the help of the bridesmaids. She is in charge of recording your wedding gifts so that you send the right thank you note to the right person. She can actually delegate this responsibility to one of the bridesmaids at your shower and at your wedding reception.

She helps the bride dress on the morning of the wedding. The maid of honor holds the bride's bouquet once the bride makes it to the altar. She also carries the groom's ring until it is time for the ring exchange.

She also signs the wedding certificate as a witness. The best man also signs it.

She stands in the receiving line either at the church or the reception and greets wedding guests.

Another important task for her on the day of the wedding is to hold your small purse with makeup and necessities. Whenever you need to freshen up your makeup, she should be close by!

After the ceremony and reception, she helps the bride change clothes and takes charge of the wedding dress while the bride goes off on her honeymoon.

What the maid of honor is not is a doormat. Brides, this is your dear friend or family member. Remember that before you go off on her because something was not done properly.

Do not insist that she cut her hair a certain way or that she wear some hideous awful ugly dress that you would not be caught dead in because you think it will make your wedding better. Do not insist that she lose weight before she can be in your wedding. (Yes, some brides actually do these things!)

She is not your servant or your slave. She is helping you with no pay because she cares about you. Treat her well, even when things do not go the way you plan. Chill out. You will get through this time and all will be fine!

Remember this. Your wedding is short, but life will continue for a long time afterwards. Do you want it to continue without her friendship? Treat her well and it is okay if things go wrong. You will get through it!

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