A Christian Wedding

What is a Christian wedding? It is a ceremony celebrating the union between a man and a woman, both of whom are born-again believers.

They commit their lives to each other, allowing their Lord, Jesus Christ, to lead them and to bless their marriage.

Their home will be filled with love--Eros love between husband and wife, but also Agape love as the husband and wife portray the Biblical relationship between Jesus and His Church. The Bible says that Jesus loved the Church and unselfishly gave Himself for it.

A Christian wedding is a celebration of love and the beginning of a brand new life together for the new husband and wife. It is also a blending of two separate families. Sometimes the blending is easy. Other times, not so much.

Sometimes the two families never do quite blend together. Some never make the effort. This creates a difficult situation for the happy couple. They find themselves in the middle of what can sometimes be an ugly and constant battle as the in-laws pull the couple in two directions at once. Only the Lord can give them strength to stay together through it all.

Ideally, a Christian wedding is a joyous occasion. But this is not always the case. Sometimes the couple's families are not pleased with the idea of marriage and will fight the bride and/or groom all the way to the altar. Their parents may threaten not to go to the wedding unless something is changed to suit them. Some family members will not show up at all, no matter what concessions you are willing to make.

It may be something as silly as you inviting some friends that they don't like or they may dislike the minister who will be officiating. Worst of all, they can't stand your choice of a husband or wife so will wage a protest. (Been there, done that to all of the above.)

Just remember that at the end of the day it is your wedding and your happiness, not your family's. I know it is hard not to have them there but you won't be spending the next portion of your life with them (unless you listen to them and don't go through with the wedding).

Remember that you are marrying the love of your life and the two of you have a future together no matter what your family fights about.

As the happy couple plan their wedding, only the joining of two born-again believers in marriage should be important. All fighting, especially among Christian family members should stop. Families should support and love the new couple but many couples do not have that kind of support. But they can take comfort in each other and in the Lord.